The hesitation of typing, deleting and retyping has become a familiar ritual of modern romance. Dating apps, messaging platforms and even private notes now come with an invisible safety net, where AI offers suggestions designed to sound confident, charming or emotionally calibrated to reduce misinterpretation and rejection.While psychiatrists like Shefali Batra contend that “An AI love note is a statistical average of human romance, not a genuine disclosure of the heart,” Gen Z thinks otherwise. “AI is less a replacement for feeling and more a tool for translation. The feelings are obviously real, AI just helps us not ruin the moment with a badly worded text,” says Ishita K, 26, a UX designer. In long-distance relationships, AI often acts as a translator. “When you don’t have tone or touch, clarity becomes intimacy. AI just helps us get there,” says Aisha, 28, a communications consultant.Rohan, 27, a marketing executive, relies on it during disagreements. “I’ve definitely used AI as a tone check during fights. It’s almost as if it’s become the neutral friend in the group chat.”
Romeo and Juliet, reimagined for the Al age – where balcony speeches are replaced by LLM prompted texts and Cupid has been upgraded to a chatbot
I’ve used AI mostly as a filter. Like, ‘does this sound rude or romantic?’ It doesn’t create the emotion, but it definitely edits the delivery especially when you don’t want to mess up the vibe
Sahil, 29, software engineer
Sometimes we need help making a message sound sweet, not awkward. The feelings are ours. It’s just like having an overenthusiastic Cupid in the chat
Meera, 26, brand strategist
AI’s most-requested love prompts
- “Write a Valentine’s note that sounds like me”
- “Flirt, but not desperate”
- “Make this apology honest, not dramatic”
- “Help me reply fast, I don’t want to kill the vibe”
- “Romantic, not cringe, please”
- “Turn my feelings into poetry, but keep it casual”
Sometimes I know what I want to say, but not how to say it without sounding harsh. AI definitely helps soften the delivery
Rohan, 27, marketing executive
While courage has to come from the individual, the wording is something many now choose to outsource
Dr Aman Bhonsle, relationship counsellor
In numbers…
- 43% of daters use “rizz assistants” to draft opening messages (As per ‘Daters breaking the ice with AI,’ Indiana University, 2024)
- 81% of Indians reported better responses with AI-generated content (As per McAfee’s 2024 ‘Modern Love’ study exploring the intersection of AI and online dating)
- 56% of Indians are willing to use AI to write Valentine’s Day notes for confidence (As per McAfee’s 2024 ‘Modern Love’ study exploring the intersection of AI and online dating)
- 333% uptick in AI usage in dating in one year (As per Match.com/KinseyInstitute, 2025)
— Sanjana Pulugurtha
