In a culture often defined by its relentless pursuit of youth, perfection, and hyper-curated lifestyles, one South Korean content creator is striking a chord globally by pulling back the curtain on her own regrets. Also read | 37-year-old Korean woman shares real reason she is not married, reveals her uncle’s advice that changed her life forever
Yulli, a 41-year-old single woman living in South Korea, took to Instagram on March 24 to share a raw, vulnerable reflection on the realities of ageing, relationships, and financial independence. Her post has sparked conversation, particularly among millennials navigating the high-pressure environment of their third decade.
“I’m 41, single, living in Korea,” Yulli introduced herself, adding, “And I made a lot of wrong choices in my 30s. Here are 5 things I wish I knew in my 30s.”
1. Warning against premature cosmetic procedures
South Korea is globally recognised as a powerhouse for cosmetic surgery and dermatological treatments. However, Yulli’s foremost warning targeted the societal pressure to start these treatments early. She urged younger women to exercise restraint, hinting at the long-term diminishing returns of over-tweaking one’s appearance. “Don’t rush into cosmetic procedures. When you actually need them later, they don’t work the same anymore,” Yulli warned.
2. Letting go of seasonal relationships
Navigating social circles in adulthood often brings the painful realisation that not all friendships or partnerships are built to last. For Yulli, learning to let go of people was a critical lesson in protecting her own peace. “Stop trying to keep every relationship,” she advised, offering a candid reminder that growth often requires parting ways. “Some people were never meant to stay,” she added.
3. The finite window for family
As career and social obligations peak in a person’s 30s, ageing parents can often be inadvertently sidelined. Yulli highlighted the sudden realisation of mortality and the limited time adult children actually have left with their families. She said, “Take care of your parents while you still can. Time with them is limited.”
4. Financial realities and physical longevity
The hustle culture of your 20s and 30s can breed a false sense of physical invincibility. Yulli’s fourth piece of advice connected financial security directly to the inevitable decline of physical stamina. “Start saving money earlier,” she shared, adding, “Because one day, your body won’t have the same energy to earn it.”
5. Active dating as a filtering process
While the pressure to settle down can cause some to retreat from the dating scene entirely out of fatigue, Yulli views dating not as a race to the altar, but as an essential trial-and-error process for self-discovery. “Date more,” she encouraged. “The more people you meet, the faster you learn who’s wrong for you,” she explained.
Learning the hard way
Yulli’s reflection serves as a counter-narrative to the idealised, hyper-successful personas that dominate modern social media. By sharing her vulnerabilities, she hopes to save the next generation from the same pitfalls she encountered. “I learned all of this the hard way,” Yulli concluded.
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