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The post prompted a discussion about how people behave after they achieve success abroad.
The man is now based in London. (Representative Image)
A Bengaluru-based entrepreneur has shared a candid story about how a relative he helped become successful now refuses to acknowledge his contribution or thank him for the same. Vasant Shetty, the founder and CEO of Mundhe Banni, a community-powered venture to help entrepreneurs in Karnataka, said that his relative showed “zero gratitude” for his help.
The CEO revealed that his relative, now a Non-Resident Indian (NRI), was a mediocre student. He faced trouble in landing a job after his studies and suffered from low self-esteem. After Shetty’s help, he managed to land a job abroad, but started claiming he was “a self made man” and giving “unsolicited advice” to everyone.
The post prompted a discussion about the mindset of people who become successful abroad.
What Did The Post Say?
Shetty dropped the post in reaction to a question about why people feel proud about living abroad. He said that his relative, who was an engineering graduate, did not improve his skills or confidence levels even when he got a job via someone’s influence. The man’s favourite pastime was looking at news portals. While he remained in the same position, people who joined after him got promoted. Later on, a chat with Shetty led to an eye-opening realisation.
The man then changed his attitude and took a difficult ERP (Enterprise Resource Planning) course. “For 1 month, he stayed at my home. I took care of him while he studied 16 to 18 hours every day preparing for the exam. With the certification in hand, he finally landed a job at an IT services major. His confidence grew. He became a skilled ERP consultant and even started running independent training sessions on weekends,” Shetty wrote.
Later on, the man got a job at a major IT firm. He eventually landed a role in London and started “working in Europe with one of the largest Fortune clients”. However, his attitude underwent a drastic change.
The post revealed that the man now mentions “being a globe trotter and how tired he is of visiting one country after another” every time he comes to India. He does not express his gratitude to the people who helped him achieve his current position.
“I sometimes feel many Indians who grow up with a scarcity mindset struggle to process what they see as outsized success. Boasting about foreign life becomes a way to feel important,” Shetty concluded in his post.
A distant relative of mine was an average student in college. He had at least 1 subject backlog in 7 out of the 8 semesters of engineering. He did engineering largely because of family and peer pressure. He finished with 50 percent marks.He came down to Bengaluru for a job and… https://t.co/aupdCMm98R
— Vasant Shetty | Building Mundhe Banni (@vasantshetty81) February 15, 2026
How Did The Internet React?
The note sparked mixed reactions. Some said it was common for people to forget who helped them. “Seen quite a few ppl like this. Some acknowledge this late in life. For some, it’s just ego,” a user said.
Another wrote, “It’s fine, you were meant to be a cog in his growth, no more. Gratitude for all those who helped him, may come later. Though there is no guarantee that an individual can evolve, sometimes after a good run when hard times come, we turn bitter, and angry.”
A person warned, “This is what IT has done to most Indians. Core engineering graduates watch out. Decide wisely.”
“You shall always come across such people! Have helped literal unknown people put food on their plates only to be spoken about on my back .. so yeah.. neki kar dariya mein dal has a literal meaning now…It’s no longer just a phrase,” another explained.
“Status ki bhuk,” a person quipped.
The post reveals how people may change after finding success, and refuse to acknowledge the very things or people that helped them reach where they are.
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February 16, 2026, 16:47 IST
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